Closure

Few weeks ago, I was in Bangkok visiting a friend of mine, Pauline which unfortunately had been diagnosed with advance stage liver cancer. When we talk about cancer or someone having cancer, we don't usually realize the impact. The word “anything could happen” stuck with me for a while.

Then last week, my uncle in Malaysia died in a car accident. My mum grieves at any moment the name of my uncle is mentioned. In life, death is unavoidable but then it seems like unfinished business keeps on trading like the hi-rise buildings in Raffles place. Thankfully, those businesses can be consider as one form, regret. There are only 2 types of regret. Both are a choice you make to validate your decision. It’s either you do or you don’t. Either way, you’ll regret both.

Research had shown that most people regret in something they did not do. The main reason is because we are free to imagine the different consequences of scenarios if we have chosen the “unchosen” road. What if… to put it in the easiest form of speech. However, keep thinking of “what if” could never turn back time and amend our mistake or wrong decision. Instead, focusing of what’s now.

What's going to happen now is that facing death and preparing for death everyday you live is not pessimistic or taboo. If someone gets really ill, the last thing you can do is to let the illness define who he/she is. Instead prepare for what's going to happen. No matter how hard we try to keep our composure and to present a facade of calm and understanding, we can never be able to explain death sensibly. Instead, find a way to end it with a proper closure, if you care well enough to seek for it...

*Pauline had now passed away in 8th May 2010*